Monday, April 1, 2024
Monday, April 1st, 2024
Saturday, October 28, 2023
Saturday, October 28th, 2023
I honestly didn't even realize that I had made somewhat of a similar point regarding my drive to continue with the band in my previous post.
I still felt it was necessary as I expanded on the idea, and basically came to a conclusion.
I'm also very happy with the other topics I covered.
For this post, I would like to begin talking about my battle with mental health issues over the past few years.
In 2020 I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder after going through a month long partial inpatient program where I learned a lot of dialectical behavioral therapy skills.
I decided to check myself in again around mid-November of this year. This time it was for 5 weeks, and I was diagnosed with not only BPD, but Bipolar disorder as well. A lot of people see "BPD" and think "Bipolar Disorder", but they are in fact two entirely separate diagnoses. Just wanted to clear that up for anyone reading this.
I'm on mood stabilizers now, and I haven't smoked weed since September 2nd, 2023. Coming up on 2 months. A completely unintentional "sober October" if you will.
I realized that smoking all day every day was causing me to act very erratically, and making me extremely reactive to pretty much everything. It also made me stop caring about almost everything in my life. It was, without a doubt, a band-aid for everything I had gone through since 2014. I miss it, but it's pretty well known that it can cause serious instability in people with bipolar disorder. So I had to stop. I'm fairly certain that all of these things combined have a lot to do with why I'm feeling the urge to write about my experiences in life now. I'm a lot more focused, and I know what I want out of life.
I must add that my partner has been the single most supportive person I've ever had in my life. She doesn't put up with my bullshit, but at the same time has the patience of a saint. She isn't a miserable piece of shit like my ex, who only exacerbated my mental illnesses. Not that it's an excuse for not getting help. I just never had the tools or support until now.
We've both helped each other become better people through our own trials and tribulations. It hasn't been easy by any stretch of the word, but I truly believe that we've both made it to the other side. I just can't express how happy I am to have found her.
I don't want every post on here to have me exposing past traumas, but it will without a doubt happen again. I'm so tempted to go off on a few more tangents about my exes...but I'll leave it at that for now.
Until then, I'm just going to enjoy some music and continue on with my day.
Friday, October 27, 2023
Friday, October 27th, 2023
I'm fairly certain that hardly anyone takes the time to check out this blog despite it having had a lot of traffic in the past.
With that being said, I'm here to write again.
I've decided that I need to stop agonizing over the idea of Energy becoming the biggest band in the world.
I had a good run, achieved every teenage dream I ever had, and saw more success with music than most people ever will, but I can't continue to torture myself. I haven't had a band since 2017, I haven't written a new song in 7 years, and I don't even really have the urge or desire to write songs anymore. I'm not going to continue struggling and trying to find myself through creating music at this point in my life.
I'm sure that I'll write and record music in the future, but it will be on my terms with no pressure. It won't be written with Energy in mind whatsoever though. If I write again, it has to be fun. I have abandoned so many demos that I've started for Energy because the emotion just isn't there. I'm still very capable of writing guitar riffs - that I know.
I made a somewhat vague post on my Facebook about this and got a lot of encouragement to "just keep going", but that wasn't really my intention. I wasn't exactly looking for anyone to tell me that I'm "worth it" or whatever. I was just venting about how I was feeling at that exact moment. I do truly appreciate everyone's well intentioned words of advice, but the post helped me come to the realization that I need to just let it go for the sake of my own mental health
There are so many other avenues of creativity that I want to explore / pick back up on - including this.
Writing.
I love writing so much, I just never sit down and do it. Writing hardly takes any effort for me once I sit down, and I know that it will give me more creative gratification than music at this point in my life. I want to write journal entires, poetry, maybe a book or three.
I also want to get back on YouTube and start making videos about music and other things in general. I love alternative fashion, as well as another avenue that I'm not ready to discuss publicly yet until I actually dip my feet in the water of that world.
After my Facebook post, a close and dear friend of mine (who I haven't actually seen in ages) messaged me and said:
"I am sure everyone is encouraging you to stick with it but have you tried allowing yourself to move on for the sake of your mental health? Like does being a big musician really matter in the long run? Maybe a quiet life of just being content is enough. I think about this often lately.
Knowing you I think you should. Work toward moving on to something else. I used to want to be a celebrity photographer but I could give a shit less now. It’s not worth it. Life is too short and who needs the stress.You made cool music and you did a big tour. That’s more than 99% of bands that have ever existed. And you wouldn’t be popular by now anyway no bands last that long other than the most famous. Give yourself a break, forever. And just enjoy life in whatever way you can and get rid of that weight hanging on you. Move on and be easy on yourself."